Never say you can’t until you prove you can’t

Our Guest Author is, once again, Gorgeous Dunny, with another of his fascinating “Memoirs of a Country Employment Counsellor”. Thank you, GD!

(Credit: Joseph A. Rosen, Guitar International)

Lessons in life can spring from the most improbable sources. The legendary guitarist Les Paul never forgot one he’d had as a small boy.

A road workman on a lunch break fascinated him by playing lively tunes on his harmonica. Suddenly the workman stopped and handed young Les the harmonica, saying, “Here, you have a go.”

Les shyly declined, mentioning he couldn’t play. The workman jumped up angrily and shouted, “Never say you can’t until you prove you can’t!” He handed him the harmonica again and said, “Now, Play!”

Young Les modestly complied, fumbling away making awkward sounds from the instrument. The workman, now more kindly, took the harmonica back from him and said, “All right, son. You’ve proved you can’t play at the moment. It don’t mean you can’t ever play. Always remember that, kid. Never say you can’t until you prove you can’t.”

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bZFKeyGpgK0

Les did always remember, and applied it to everything he tackled in life. The harmonica was the first musical instrument that he mastered, but he was destined for much greater things as an innovator with the guitar.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HH8vjxFIUC4

As a teenager, I’d read this story in one of those Readers Digest features called something like, “My most unforgettable moments”. It stayed with me because Les Paul’s amazing guitar performances had made him an idol of mine. I started to include it in my own life because it sounded pretty good. How do we know we can’t, if we don’t prove we can’t?

In my tourism career, I found it a useful way of addressing problems. In Sydney during the late 60s, South Australian Tourist Bureau did very well out of interest in the semi-desert and desert areas of the Flinders Ranges and Central Australia. But one problem was that tourist services were virtually confined to the winter months from April to September. The climate could be quite severe in the summer months, and air-conditioning was not then commonplace.

(Aroona Dam, Flinders Ranges, South Australia. Photograph: Mike Langford )

Yet many people, because of their employment or business, could only travel in the summer months. I negotiated for some time with tour operators before one took the plunge with an Ayers Rock- Alice Springs tour ex Adelaide starting from Boxing Day. It required a little adaption such as air-conditioned vehicles and avoiding much travel through the middle of the day. But it could be done. The tour was oversubscribed, leading to another departure. That operator expanded the following season and other tour operators offered services after that success.

It was more daunting for the Birdsville and Strzelecki Tracks and Simpson Desert areas. Even during the winter months, only four-wheel drive vehicles could be used and great care had to be exercised. One ‘regular’ couple that had grown to love desert areas had a long ambition to tour there, but could only travel during December-January. Again I lobbied various operators before one agreed to try it. My couple were among the first to book in what became a successful, in-demand tour.

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(Credit: Australian Geographic – Photograph: Jiri Lochman)

They could not contain their joy when they returned to tell me about it. He developed a shocking sun skin cancer on the forehead but felt that it was a small price for what was the trip of a lifetime. I tried to bring that attitude to my later career in employment counselling, never say you can’t, until you prove you can’t.

I received just such a challenge at Portland when Bev came to see me. She was seeking Labour Market Program (LMP) assistance to do a two-year travel course. I should mention that the Commonwealth Employment Service (CES) could only approve LMP assistance for course durations of up to one year. Anything longer had to be recommended and approved by me. As it turned out, it was singularly appropriate that it went to me.

Bev had no problem meeting the eligibility requirements for assistance. She was in her late twenties and had a most unusual background. As a qualified chef, her employment future had seemed assured until an unusual accident at home in Melbourne. She fell off a stool while doing some repairs at home. From the subsequent head injuries she had a stroke. After rehabilitation, and parental support in her native town of Portland, she had made a partial recovery, but had a permanent paralysis of her right side – arm and leg. She got around with a walking stick and had learned other things such as writing with her left hand.

Being used to her own independence, Bev was determined to return to work. She could never return to cooking because of the heavy work shifting pots, plus the general agility now denied her with the right side paralysis. So she looked at retraining for work as a travel consultant where her disability would not be a major problem.

This was the dilemma for me. She could have remained on disability pension for the rest of her life, but she wanted to work and deserved to be encouraged. Yet coming from the travel industry myself, I knew immediately that it was unsuited to her. She was an introvert personality. She had no clerical/administrative background.

Without exceptional motivation, it was hard to see how she could adapt. Part of my recommendation was based around the prospects of her getting employment after completing the course. I just couldn’t see it happening in Bev’s case.

On the other hand, I felt that whatever I did, I should not say to her that she can’t do it. She ought to be encouraged, but the challenge was to get her going in a vocational direction that would be beneficial. Instead, I asked her why she had decided to do a travel training course. Her answer was startling and enlightening. She had been determined to work again as she recovered. Whatever she tried to do, she’d always been told it was not possible. Finally, she’d received a lot of encouragement from a social worker. She suggested the Travel course to Bev.

The choice was inappropriate in my view. But it was understandable that, having been given no encouragement to that point, she should snatch at that option. I had formed quite different ideas based on my experience in rehabilitation. I believed that it was easier to make the transition to a new career if you could draw on the knowledge and experience of your existing trade or occupation.

For example, I’d had considerable success with former building industry tradespeople (plumbing, bricklaying, carpentry, painting) by placing them in hardware store retail sales. Their particular knowledge was a major sales asset for the hardware stores’ primary client group of home handymen/renovators. Often the essential need of these customers was the knowledge/advice of how to address a problem or an emergency. The sales of recommended products followed from that advice.

I’d encouraged other injured tradespeople into getting TAFE training qualifications so that they could teach or assess/test apprentices. These methods lessened the amount of learning needed to enter a new occupation, while drawing on areas of knowledge in which they were competent. My idea with Bev was that such a pathway would make it a little easier to achieve her goal of useful employment.

The trick was how to bring her around to this idea without discouraging her. What I had in mind was something like an Advanced Certificate in Hospitality, which was essentially about kitchen management in a hotel or restaurant. It took in such things as planning menus and supplies, arranging services, training apprentices and kitchen-hands plus specialty things such as nutrition, diet and hygiene. It would still require her to develop additional skills, but in the context of advancing on her existing knowledge and skills.

South West TAFE at Warrnambool had a School of Hospitality and Tourism, which was ideal for what I had in mind. It had options of courses in travel/tourism and hospitality/cookery. I said that, for a start, I’d prefer that she do a course locally (the one she’d originally nominated was in Melbourne) so that she still had parental/family support. She agreed with the sense of that, and I said I’d set up an interview with the Head of that school.

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I rang him to discuss setting up an interview with Bev. I explained the background and where I was hoping to take it, bearing in mind that I did not want to discourage her. He proved remarkably sympathetic, having a brother with a major disability. He said that he’d show her right through the department and what each course did and led to. He was confident it would be enough information for her to decide for herself and he looked forward to her becoming a student there. I contacted Bev and arranged her transport to Warrnambool for the interview.

A few weeks later, she saw me again about getting training assistance to do the Advanced Certificate in Hospitality. It was a two-year course, just as the travel one was. I happily arranged the recommendation/approval for this course, including the daily commuting bus transport from Portland. I left it to my new friend at TAFE to arrange whatever modifications might have been needed to allow Bev to cope physically.

I still feigned innocence on the whole thing, and I asked her what had changed her mind about her choice of course.
She replied, “Oh, I realized after I went over there that a travel certificate was a stupid choice and that this one made a lot more sense.”

Although I had manipulated the situation a little, I had left the ultimate decision up to her. I was glad she’d reached that conclusion.

I saw her at the end of the year at Warrnambool, when there had to be a renewal of her training assistance program for the second year. She had passed the first year requirements comfortably, and was satisfied with the course she’d selected. The only change was that she’d decided to relocate to Warrnambool for the second year. The daily travel (one hour each way) had been a bit tiring with her disability.

She gained her qualification. I next saw her was a year or two later at Hamilton. I was visiting the Wool Bales, which was a tourism project at Hamilton organized by Yooralla to employ people with severe disabilities. Bev had been recruited (in the ‘open market’) to supervise and train people with disabilities to prepare meals and food for visiting tourists. She seemed very comfortably in her element, training and supervising disability trainees in this work. Visitors to the Wool Bales greatly valued the quality of the food output. The trainees adored Bev as she hobbled about the kitchen barking out instructions.

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I felt a sense of satisfaction not just at the end result but also that I’d had contact with her at all CES offices in this region that I served, starting at Portland, then Warrnambool and finally Hamilton.

It seemed to reinforce to me that where at all possible, you should not close off options to a person seeking to enter or re-enter the workforce. In many cases what they want to do may be a pointless dream, but it should not be up to us to deny them that hope. Rather, by questioning, logical inferences and examples we should encourage people to reach their most achievable goal.

With Bev, I could have justified rejecting her application for training assistance on the grounds that firstly she may not be capable of completing the travel course, and secondly that completion alone would not lead to employment. But of what benefit to her in her efforts to find work? Yet if I had merely approved it on the basis of ‘doing something’ it could have led to similar disappointment. I needed to find a way of not refusing her, but opening up other possibilities. Then she could more easily commit to her own best interests.

My political hero was Don Dunstan, who for a while was also my boss when SA Tourism became part of the Premiers Department. Although he did not consciously adopt an attitude identical to Les Paul’s workman, it was similar but just expressed differently.

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When faced with urgently needed reforms, whether from decriminalizing homosexuality to imposing a deposit on beverage containers, Dunstan would always ask the question, “Well, why not?”

If he couldn’t give a rational answer to that, then he’d do something about it. The political difficulty was not an issue. Should it be, he would work on bringing opponents around to it. What mattered was whether it was right or needed to be done. It does require political courage. Other states have buckled at drink container reform just as soon as the selfish beverage lobby turned up the heat on them. But what is right is often more important than what is politically safe to do.

Who would have thought that the outlook of a road works laborer from 90 years ago could still resonate? It does seem a good approach to life.

Never Say You Can’t, Until You Prove You Can’t.

701 thoughts on “Never say you can’t until you prove you can’t

  1. Follow-on from today’s senate inquiry into the NBN –
    Telstra copper network an ‘absolute disgrace’: Comms Union
    Summary: A communications union official has said that Telstra is ‘hiding behind the statistics’ for the quality of its copper network, and that the network is much worse than even Telstra knows.
    http://www.zdnet.com/au/telstra-copper-network-an-absolute-disgrace-comms-union-7000023717/

    The last paragraph –

    The membership of the committee is made up of three Labor senators and one Greens senator. The Coalition is allowed to appoint three of its own to the committee, but it is understood that the government didn’t nominate any senators prior to today’s hearing.

  2. PJF,
    Mr Thomson, if found not guilty on all charges, would probably have good ground for several defamation actions, and I’m sure Mr Clive Evatt would be delighted to assist.

    However, Mr Thomson would be up against organisations with very deep pockets, who would be more than prepared to use every dirty tactic possible to stymie him.

  3. Leone,
    What a mishmash fraudband will be. None of those turkeys seem to know what they’re doing and the “review” is so bloody narrow it is useless. I believe Conroy got stuck into them – wish I had been able to watch.

  4. Today just keeps getting worse for Aung San Suu Kyi. Now she has had to endure a tour of the House of Representatives with Broomhilda. That after The Idiot telling her he knows just what she went through because he endured four years in opposition. Ye gods and little fishes! Is there no limit to the man’s inanity?

  5. I listened to the Senate committee this morning and gained the impression that the Fraudband box would be hooked into the closest house’s electricity supply and hope the owner didn’t notice.
    The FTTN is much more vulnerable to outages, when the box hiccups all the houses connected to it will go down.
    FTTP delivered with 6 ports, unlikely to connect multiple ports to the FTTN box

  6. Qantas needs to ditch the leprechaun. It is not much of an icon when it takes it’s maintenance off shore and then puts it’s hand out for public support.

  7. Abbott does that agrressive-handshake-invade -body-space thing again, Aung San Suu Kyi has to lean back to get away.

  8. leonetwo

    Oaf Abbott when meeting some Rugby League guys a few months back adopted a very different handshake style.. Wouldn’t have been because they were bigger than him could it ? What a bully boy he is.

  9. From over the road. Was PMBO really that embarrassing ?

    [TheFinnigans天地有道人无道 ‏
    Are you serious, Abbott comparing himself as 4y of LOTO to the 11 years of house arrest & struggle of Daw Aung San Suu Kyi – what a fuckwit]

  10. KK

    I remember that incident with the Thugby league players and posted a link to the photo, he is a classic bully/cowardly man (i hate using the term man when talking about abbott).

  11. gigilene

    And came close to being assassinated during an attack on her convoy which killed 70 of her supporters. Abbott the Rabbit..

  12. Quite.

    She sacrificed being with her husband and children forever to do what she could for her country. To even mention The Idiot in that context is sheer lunacy

  13. Had a look at a Sky news poll 80% think Julie Bishop’ s remarks will not affect the Chinese free trade deal- its another universe over there.

  14. Four years in opposition, Tony! I can see how that is so much worse than what Lady Suu has gone through.

  15. gigilene

    I wonder if Abbott offered some Aid to Myanmar. Probably not.

    Morel likely said of the State Law and Order Restoration Council (SLORC), that tried to kill her that”sometimes in difficult circumstances difficult things happen”. and then gifted the generals a couple of APC’s to patrol the border with.

  16. George Roberts ‏@George_Roberts 6m
    From what the Indonesian Foreign Minister says there appears to be no end in sight to the suspension of cooperation with Australia.

    Greg Sheridan had better put “Peace In Our Time” back in the bottom drawer. His declaratory op-ed this morning that Australians could sleep safely, knowing that the adults were in charge, is utter horse-shit.

    When is this turkey, Sheridan, going to realise that the Indonesians want more than words? A letter is not enough.

    They want deeds.

    “We’ll match Labor dollar-for-dollar” might work in the heat of an electon campaign here, but promises like that don’t cut any ice with SBY, pretty clearly.

    He seems to want nothing but a resetting of the relationship between Australia and Indonesia, preferably with Indonesia on top.

    It’s Australia that thinks it’s fine to go on digging holes in the ground forever. That would put us on about an international sophistication level with The Congo, or Mongolia. It’s banana republic stuff.

    Indonesia wants to get ahead, and prosper. They have to.

    Australia purporting to tell it what it is to do on this or that issue, providing beads and trinkets as inducements, issuing empty threats and beating hollow chests, sending Old Nipples up there to wow the boonga-loongas with her sophistication, is just not on anymore.

  17. When Abbott rolled Turnbull was he doing so at the behest of the business community in general or only sections of it? Now we know he’s going to put in place policies that favour Gina and Roops but what about others?
    What I’m leading to is will the diplomatic incompetence of this govt eventually start to ring alarm bells with what should be the rest of the Libs natural constituency?
    At what point will businesses who trade with China and Indonesia start to find it harder to get access; harder to get emails and phone calls returned?
    What’s going on now might be playing well with the bogans but what happens if it affects companies who trade with Asia?
    A big call from me, but I think in time there’ll be moves to dump Abbott. Mind you it depends on who has the most clout in the Liberal Party—the mining lobby or the importers/exporters/traders with Asia

  18. CTar1

    Of course her father as an Army General collaborated with the Japanese in WWII

    Probably another case of ” The enemy of my enemy is my friend”

  19. I was talking to a bloke today who reckons all we should do is lob a few bombs Jakarta’s way. Let them know who is boss.
    Pushed about retaliation No Probs. Same as the Japs in WW2. The desert /crocs Blackfellas will soon finish of any invaders Plus the USA would be on our side because of ANZUS and they hate the slopes as well.

    University educated, successful. Nice family man normally.
    Abbott knows who he is playing to, he is already looking towards the next election

  20. While I’m optimistic that the election in Victoria next year will have good results for Labor, I am a bit annoyed, especially with the events of federal politics earlier this year, that every time a good poll for Vic Labor shows up in the papers, stories like this seem to appear.

    http://www.theage.com.au/victoria/daniel-andrews-savaged-by-one-of-his-own-mps-20131128-2ycrj.html

    While they might have little effect now, I’m hoping that Andrews’ enemies within the party just keep their mouths shut closer to the election, since it’s things like this that ruin campaigns, especially for oppositions.

  21. kaffee

    Probably another case of ” The enemy of my enemy is my friend”

    He was a duplicitous bastard.

  22. Kirsdarke,
    I fear that we’ll see more of these outbursts from some linked to the right factions, of which Kaye Darveniza is a member of, I guess that there are certain people in the faction that are pissed off that Andrews hasn’t turned out to be like the fall guy who would lose the election following a change of government, like Robert Doyle was or John Robertson will be, and actually has a shot of becoming premier next year

  23. CTar1

    He was a duplicitous bastard.

    I know nothing about him so I’ll take your assessment.

  24. I was looking forward to the interview with Lady Suu. They are putting it last. All this pre stuff was upping my blood pressure.

  25. So if you have an E-500 and the battery goes flat while the Sunroof is open there is a 15 step (yes, 15) procedure to get it to work again.

    I made 4 attempts over about 3 hours this morning (intermittent because I had to take ‘severely pissed-off breaks).

    So now it’s shut and I might leave it that way for a while …

  26. CTar1

    On the bright side due to global warming the need for the sunroof being closed is likely to be greatly reduced. Vote 1 Direct Action 🙂

  27. A great interview.

    Note to Leigh You can do it.

    And don’t hold a p in your hand!en

  28. Whenever I hear the Walkleys mentioned it gets me wondering what happened to Glenn Milne. Seems to have disappeared off the face of the earth.

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