Rape Never Heals

Today’s Guest Author is Puff, the Magic Dragon. Thank you so much for your contribution, my dear friend. My apologies for the delay – it’s taken me several days to get into the “guest author” persona but at last I’ve managed! (And I’ve written down the password …)

Rape never heals is the basis of any discussion about rape.

There is no passage of time, no therapy, and no medicine to reverse it.

There is no way to return to being un-raped.

The trauma may reduce, but it can never unhappen.

You could protest that any violent attack does the same. But there’s a fundamental difference: rape is an invasion. Why do countries spend so much energy and resources to repel invasion? Let that thought linger a while and consider it.

The perpetrators may have many reasons or none.

A perpetrator, or to say it plainly, a rapist, always has an excuse, usually founded on a false belief of the lesser humanity of women. But unlike non-human mammals, a female human has a menstrual cycle, not an oestrus cycle. The permission needed to engage with a male human comes from her consciousness, as it does for any human to engage sexually with another.

Unlike animals, human mammals have choice, and they exercise it. Female humans exercise the choice all the time – to accept, reject, or just not be interested – all their lives. It is why we as females are not animals in heat. We are not there for the taking. No human is there for the taking. We have the fundamental human right to decide with whom we have sexual relations, and when and how.

So when this human right is broken, it is not we who become less than human.

We do not revert to the animal instincts of a species needing to propagate to survive. There are too many humans anyway, we passed that point millenniums ago.

The rapist is the one who has chosen to revert, to treat other humans as mere objects, and to betray humanity.

Rapists violate the human rights of others for their own sub-human excuses.

This is not just the violent assault, the sudden attack.

When a person does not or cannot give consent, it is rape. If you are not invited into the house, it is trespass. If permission is revoke and you do not leave, it is trespass.

With the body of a human both are rape.

A rapist can believe what they are doing is not rape: “You can’t call rape” is a common phrase.

It is rape even when a person has to put up with the act to relieve the pressure to give-in, to “get it over and done with”, or to keep the rapist from hurting others in the family.

So how should we react to rapists?

As humans who briefly lost their way, with the usual excuse of its being the victims fault?

Or as perpetrators of a crime against humanity: unfit for the freedom of human society, or any role in which they have authority over any other human being?

Society can only work on trust. When that trust is broken, it must be mended.

Rape is a fundamental breach of trust and cannot be mended.

When a person is raped, society itself is raped.

As a human society, it is up to us to determine if we will accept this, excuse it, cover up for it, deny its existence, collude and, ultimately  betray our humanity and each other.

Just remember, the victim, and us, can never, ever be un-raped.

305 thoughts on “Rape Never Heals

  1. Their ABC – always ready to help a struggling minister.

  2. He didn’t read them!!!

    He’s asked what he did with the materials and says that he forwarded them to the AFP. Asked whether he read them, he says:

    I’m aware of the contents of them. I’ve been briefed on the contents of them. And it was appropriate, as the commissioner himself advised the parliament, to refer any allegations to the properly authorities. That is the way in our country under the rule of law things like this are dealt with. It is important to ensure that we uphold that. That is the way our society operates. Now, these are very distressing issues that have been raised, as there are other issues that have been raised in relation to other members in other cases. But the proper place for that to be dealt is by the authorities, which are the police. That’s how our country operates.

    • If he didn’t bother reading the material then it’s fair to say he has not bothered to read the final report from the
      RC into aged care either. He will probably claim he has been “briefed” by some minion or other.

      He has more important things to do that read letters about a historical rape or reports from RCs – things like going to the beach, posing for photo ops while he’s there and ringing Henderson to ask for a dirty favour.

  3. BK said – “Concerns Mark Latham has disproportionate influence over education policy in NSW have prompted a stinging response from Education Minister Sarah Mitchell.”

    Few people remember Latham was once Kim Beazley’s Shadow Minister for Education, 1996-1998. He resigned that position, with a great deal of publicity, after he had a policy disagreement with Beazley during the 1998 election campaign.

    Latham has a habit of resigning if he doesn’t get what he wants.

    Now it seems he is trying to get his own ideas on education forced into NSW.

    Latham is not an educator, he has no training or background in education at any level. He studied economics at university then went straight into a job as a Labor advisor. He has never known anything but politics in one form or another. Just saying “I went to school, my kids go to school” does not make you qualified to set education policy. All he knows about education is what he learned through very selective reading. A nutter like Latham is not going to bother reading anything he disagrees with.

    My opinion – if Latham wants something then that is always bad news.

  4. So that’s it – or so the CrimeMinister thinks.

    He has, allegedly, spoken to the cabinet rapist who has “vigorously and completely denied the allegations”. Well, of course he would say that.

    He also spoke to the head of the Australian Federal Police, Reece Kershaw, on Wednesday, as well as the secretary of his department. He says that after that conversation it’s his view that: “at this stage, there are no matters that require attention”.

    Morrison insisted that it was a matter for the police, despite the fact that the woman who reportedly made the allegations has since died.


    He completely ignores the fact a woman was so damaged by this rape that she decided to end her life. Isn’t that worth anything to this empathy-free zone of a CrimeMinister?

    The government must be protected no matter what, as must his hold on his position.

  5. 7.5

    Anne Connolly asked the CrimeMinister some very good questions at the presser.

    The last one was about the government’s submission to the inquiry that aged care should be user pays. That is what one of the two commisioners recommended. Anne’s question was, based on the government’s submission, will aged care be user pays? He grimaced, said the government would decide and turned tail.

  6. From 2As 19:52

    … In this latest terrible instalment – the saddest of stories – the prime minister doesn’t read things, isn’t inclined to pursue rumours to ascertain truth, and won’t launch an independent inquisition to get to the facts (at least not yet) because he’s not a police force, which sounds a lot like the logical extension of not holding a hose, which was the lesson he was supposed to learn during the bushfires – the last crisis Morrison fumbled in full public view.

    I’m not sure why this isn’t obvious to the prime minister yet because it is blindingly obvious to anyone watching on.

    The current situation is untenable for everybody and Morrison can’t manage his way out of it by attrition, omission and evasion.

    He needs to lead.


  7. Richard Ackland 19:13

    … Morrison’s people say the complaint has gone to the AFP, which is entirely irrelevant. The federal police do not investigate rape offences under the NSW Crimes Act.

    A coronial inquiry in South Australia is unlikely to cast light on the alleged 1988 rape of the deceased victim.

    So it is the prime minister who is left without a chair when the music stops. To try and patch this politically, he would have to order an inquiry into the “alleged illegal or improper conduct”.

    It’s that or his ministerial standards don’t amount to a hill of beans.

    The prime minister has said he has questioned the cabinet minister, whose name he knows but the public do not, and the man in question “absolutely” denies he committed the crime.

    We’re now in the business-as-normal mode: duck, weave, deny, gasp for breath, hang on for grim death and hope the caravan moves on.

    This time it won’t and it shouldn’t.


  8. Come on, Cecilia!

    London: Mathias Cormann has made it to the final two candidates in the race to become the secretary-general of the Organisation for Economic Co-operation and Development.

    The former Australian finance minister has now defeated eight contenders for the top international post and will face Sweden’s candidate Cecilia Malmstrom in the final stage of the selection process.


  9. Good morning Dawn Patrollers

    Daniel Hurst summarises the latest Essential poll that found two-thirds of Australians think government more interested in protecting itself than women.
    David Crowe tells us how Morrison said he has spoken to the accused minister who “absolutely rejected” the claim. This is one of those “let’s move on” gambits by the look of it.
    As gut-wrenching scandals shake the government, Scott Morrison fumbles when he should lead, exclaims an obviously disillusioned Katherine Murphy who says our incurious prime minister will not be able to manage his way out of this crisis with obfuscation and evasion.
    Rocked by another horrific scandal, the Coalition Government has again attempted to avoid confronting the issue of an alleged rape in 1988, writes Dr Jennifer Wilson.
    One of Scott Morrison’s senior ministers appears willing to allow nine of his male colleagues to wear the cloud of suspicion hanging over him, writes Paul Bongiorno who says the political calculus is horrible, never mind what the right thing to do is.
    Tom Perry QC urges people to tread carefully with the minister accused of rape. He explores the various actions Morrison could take, or not.
    And Phillip Boulton SC tells us why the PM and his accused minister face political pain.
    Katherine Murphy outlines how credible the accuser was.
    Without an inquiry, Scott Morrison’s ministerial standards don’t amount to a hill of beans, opines Richard Ackland.
    Rachel Clun summarises the royal commission report by saying the “government needs to step up from ‘minimum commitment’ mentality to fix aged care”.
    According to the AFR, the government is contemplating either a tax increase or compelling greater use of retirement savings to meet a multibillion-dollar aged care challenge.
    But its editorial says fixing the aged care system requires dealing with the politically contentious issue of drawing on housing wealth to pay for better aged care services.
    Professor Joseph Ibrahim, a passionate witness at the royal commission, believes that the aged care report marks the start of big change. He was not impressed with the platitudinous effort from Morrison at yesterday’s presser though. Ibrahim finds a number of significant gaps in the recommendations.
    The Grattan Institute outlines the four key takeaways from the aged care royal commission’s final report.
    Michelle Grattan says the royal commission confronts the Morrison government with a call for an aged care tax levy.
    Leading Age Services Australia, Sean Rooney, responds to the report on behalf of the aged care providers his organisation represents.
    Aged care system has cost-cutting at its core. It must not be the driving factor in reform, writes Sally Whyte.
    The editorial in The Canberra Times calls for the aged care shame to end.
    According to Nine Media, Labor is considering major policy promises in the lead up to the federal election, including 26 weeks of fully paid parental leave, ambitious emissions targets and a rise in the superannuation guarantee to 15 per cent.
    Some economists believe the RBA may have to start lifting rates as early as next year to deal with house prices, which rose 3 per cent in Sydney and 2.5 per cent in Melbourne last month.
    Adam Triggs wonders why the RBA isn’t doing more to help the economy.
    Prospective buyers are turning up in droves to bid at auctions and house prices are rising rapidly. But the Reserve Bank and the Morrison government are not worried – yet, writes Jennifer Hewett.
    And Karen Maley warns that Josh Frydenberg’s plan to allow people to access their super savings for a house deposit will throw further fuel on the raging property conflagration.
    Job advertisements have now hit their highest level since October 2018, while the latest corporate profit figures indicate the December quarter GDP will be stronger than previously expected, explains Matthew Cranston.
    The optimism of Australia’s investors for the future has shot through the roof, says Greg Jericho.
    Treasury’s estimate of net overseas migration numbers lacks detail, meaning future economic growth remains uncertain, writes Dr Abul Rizvi.
    Dominic Powell tells us that billionaire Solomon Lew’s Just Group is being investigated by the workplace watchdog over compliance issues related to the $70 million it received from the government’s JobKeeper scheme. Let’s hope Gerry Harvey is next!
    The Government touts gas as being a key plank of JobMaker, its Covid-19 recession recovery plan. To help “support jobs” the government has given the gas industry $300 million of taxpayers’ money in subsidies. In return, the industry has cut about 3000 workers, more than 10% of it workforce, in a boom production year. Mark Ogge and Elizabeth Minter report.
    Elizabeth Knight reports that the Australian Federal Police has confirmed a report it is investigating potential criminal offences related to Crown having received a referral from Commissioner Bergin.
    A senior World Health Organisation official said on Monday it was “premature” and “unrealistic” to think the pandemic might be stopped by the end of the year, but that the recent arrival of effective vaccines could at least help dramatically reduce hospitalisations and death.
    Researchers say an increase in Australians smoking methamphetamine is driving up treatment episode rates across the country.
    A “star ratings” system that ranks the performance of employment service providers has been indefinitely suspended just as the federal government ramps up audits on job applications filed by unemployed Australians, explains Luke Henriques-Gomes. Another privatisation triumph!
    “What kind of person defrauds family and friends like Melissa Caddick?”, asks criminologist and forensic anthropologist, Xanthe Mallett.
    Two Australian-approved coronavirus vaccines have been shown to reduce the risk of hospital admission by more than 80 per cent. The Public Health England (PHE) has revealed a single dose of either the Pfizer or Oxford/AstraZeneca vaccine is more than 80 per cent effective at preventing hospitalisation in people aged 80 and over.
    Water markets aren’t perfect, but they are vital to the future of the Murray-Darling, explains Neal Hughes.
    Bevan Shields reports that Mathias Cormann has made it to the final two candidates in the race to become the secretary-general of the Organisation for Economic Co-operation and Development.
    The ASX’s technology failures were a prickly talking point when chief executive Dominic Stevens and its departing chairman were grilled by Reserve Bank governor Philip Lowe and senior regulators in early December, reports John Kehoe.
    Rod Meyer writes that compulsory superannuation has delivered strongly for Australians since its introduction in 1992, with new research showing the average balanced fund has beaten the targets set when the system was designed.
    Anthony Galloway writes that Australia will pour hundreds of millions of dollars into strategically important infrastructure across the Pacific over the coming months to compete with China’s decade-long spending spree and help ensure small nations are not saddled with debt.
    Peter Hartcher says that Marise Payne’s inaction gives comfort to the murderous regime in Myanmar.
    Andrew Tillett reveals that French government-owned shipbuilder Naval Group is trimming training for workers, including the specialist skills needed by welders, as part of budget cuts to lock in its next contract with the Defence Department.
    Greg Sheridan writes that Donald Trump’s speech to the Conservative Political Action Committee shows that he is going to be an absolute nightmare for the Republican Party in the months and years ahead.
    Oops! A court has found former French president Nicolas Sarkozy guilty of trying to bribe a judge and of influence-peddling and sentenced him to three years in jail. His lawyers have indicated there will be an appeal.

    Cartoon Corner

    David Pope

    Cathy Wilcox

    John Shakespeare

    Andrew Dyson

    Matt Golding

    Glen Le Lievre (with a gif, too)

    Dionne Gain

    Mark Knight

    John Spooner

    David Rowe

    From the US

  10. Re the length of the Aged Care Royal Commission report being over 1000 pages

    I am reminded of a conversation with a commercial and competition law professor who said that when legal judgements had to be printed judges took great pains to edit their judgements and state their reasoning concisely. Now with judgements published online in PDF form some judges included great slabs of evidence in their reasoning

    Given the importance of this Royal Commission and the illiteracy of the current government ministers and their minders its a pity the report is so long because it won’t be read or implemented

    Mum worked in aged care in the 1960s and chemical constraint was a problem then.
    Why did ABC Melbourne’s Raf Epstein argue with aged care worker who said 80% of patients have dementia, and it’s end of life care

    What annoys me is that old people aren’t allowed to kill themselves when faced with starving to death and lack of care and brutalisation in aged care home

    Profit more important than treating aged care patients humanely

    • In the 1990s a member of the Alfred Hospital Board said
      On admission the average patient weighed 60 kg, 3 months later they weighed 40kg, average length of stay was 4 months

      Aged care royal commission report says average length of stay was 12 months, isn’t Sustagen wonderful.

    • I wish we were allowed to end our lives whenever we believe we have had enough.

      The current euthanasia laws- where they exist at all – are far too strict even for the terminally ill and apply only to those with such an illness. Some miss out because their illness progresses too fast to allow them the make the necessary arrangements months in advance.

      People take their own lives, alone, without the comfort of family or friends beside them, because they know anyone staying with them will be charged with assisting a suicide.

      Some – a very few – are able to die beside their partner. We have had a few cases like that here, where elderly people, usually one of them with dementia, are found dead, together. The police just say “no suspicious circumstances” and leave it at that.

    • About Sustagen –

      One 60 g serving of their “Hospital Formula” contains 27 g of sugar but only 13.8 g of protein. There is little nutrition in this revolting stuff.

      Any weight gain resulting from use is due to the carbohydrate content – mostly sugar.


      Sustagen should be banned, instead of recommended for use in aged care institutions. It is probably killing inmates, not nourishing them.

      But who cares! There are plenty more inmates on the waiting lists. In aged “care” profits are everything, the elderly inmates are just there to ensure a steady stream of government funding.

    • 20 years ago there were not 10 Jewish men in Tasmania to conduct a Bar Mitzvah. The leader of the Hobart Hebrew Congregation was a woman and they had to import men for a batch of Bar Mitzvah’s for males aged 13 to 20

      Times change so perhaps there are more than 10 Jewish adult males

      Holocaust Museum for Tasmanian Aborigines- YES

  11. I am shocked to learn of the death of Micheal Gudinski. He used to hang around at uni because well all his friends were there and he used to regale me with stories about the bands he wanted to find and record. Such a small alive youth. I am sure he came to lectures too. I wonder if Paul Bongiorno ran into him?

    The only bands in Melbourne at that time were Madder Lake and Eagle Rock hadn’t been recorded.

  12. I always hesitate to post anything from Kangaroo Court, but Shane does do his homework and this is definitely worth a post, not just because he raises an issue the media have ignored – national security.

    He explains his perfectly valid reason for revealing the name of the victim. I agree with him – she needs to be treated as a person, not as an anonymous maker of allegations.

    Turns out Simon Birmingham also knew the woman, has done for years.

    Attorney-General Christian Porter alleged to have raped 16-yr-old Katharine Thornton in 1988

  13. Seth Meyers –

    Chris Hayes –

    Rachel Maddow –

    Brian Tyler Cohen –

    I have to take Mrs CK to a hospital appt so may be more much later.

  14. Malcolm Turnbull on RN this morning questioning whether the death of Katharine Thornton was really suicide. He says the timing seems “counter-intuitive” considering it was at the time Dyson Heydon’s conduct was exposed. He believes that exposure would have encouraged her to sign her final witness statement.


    You can work out exactly what Turnbull is implying.

  15. NSW police close investigation into cabinet minister rape allegation due to ‘insufficient admissible evidence’
    Police discontinue the investigation day after prime minister Scott Morrison said he would leave the matter to police

    This will just make everything worse.

    The CrimeMinister cannot keep on saying “leave it to the police” now. He said he had referred it to the AFP – either he lied or he is incredibly dumb. The AFP does not investigate rapes, it’s a state responsibility. In NSW rape comes under the Crimes Act 1900.

  16. Puff
    Thank you for your courageous post. I had a very close family member who suffered 6 decades of PTSD as a result of what happened during the occupation of WW2 and the subsequent “liberation” by American GIs. Each side were as bad as the other in that respect.

    For the record, I clicked the “like Button” below your post as a sign of support, There is nothing to like about rape.

  17. NSW Police close case on rape allegation against cabinet minister

    Scotty got full value from his ‘good deeds’ .
    FORDHAM: You have just been raised in a conversation with Mick Fuller, the NSW Police Commissioner.

    PRIME MINISTER: Yeah, good bloke.

    FORDHAM: Because, once upon a time when you were neighbours, according to the Commissioner, and I think this has been confirmed, you used to bring his bin in. When he’d leave the bin outside, the wheelie bin outside, and he was too lazy himself to bring it in, you would collect his bin and wheel it in for him. True or false?


    PRIME MINISTER: That’s what good neighbours do. That’s what they do. Mick is a great bloke and that’s the Shire way.

    FORDHAM: How come you don’t do it anymore?

    PRIME MINISTER: Well I don’t take the bins out anymore.

  18. We didn’t have to wait long

    • Peter Barteltt of Minter Ellison, a law firm with long-standing ties to the Liberal Party.

      The loathsome Amanda Stoker started her legal career (such as it was) there – enough said.

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